Here’s how my visit went today:
First off, the dog is fine. I don’t think he likes being on his own with just the TV for company, but he’s getting checked on three times a day. I took him for two 20-minute walks while I was there.
Went to the nursing home, and I was surprised to see Mom in Dad’s room, as the nurses contacted my brother last night to say they’d placed Dad off-limits because they walked in on her hitting him. But today, when I got there, she was in his room with a nurse present.
She left us alone and we talked for a bit. Dad was asleep the whole time, so I didn’t talk to him. Funny aside: he was dreaming, and he was twitching and running in his sleep, just like a dog. At one point, he shouted, “Haw! Haw! Get on! Get goin’!” and I knew he was dreaming about rounding up the cows for the night.
Anyway, Mom (like I’ve said before) just looked disgusted…with everything. She looked miserable and sad.
I talked to her and I asked how she was doing, and right out of the gate, she said, “I had two houses, and Lee sold them both!”
I reminded her that her previous house was sold, but she still has the condo, and she sharply said, “I don’t mean the condo! I mean my other two houses, and I’d go right from one to the other and back again, and Lee sold them both!” - Lee’s my brother and that’s a complete fabrication. She’s never had two houses, and their last house was sold with her complete knowledge and full participation.
I changed the subject and asked about how she got in there, and she said she was just out for a walk and she walked and walked and walked for hours, so far that she ended up in another town, and that’s when they got her and locked her up in the nursing home.
The walking for hours and hours is true. The actual distance from her house, though, is about a 15-minute walk. She just kept walking around and around until a couple of fellas noticed her, brought her into their shop, and called the police.
She seemed angry she was there, but resigned to it. She complained about everything, though: “Well, it’s not just Lee, all my boys are bossing me around now,” and when said how nice she looked, she said, “Oh, the nurses dressed me today…<pause>…didn’t let me pick out what I wanted, but they dressed me.”
She’s also wearing a criminal-style ankle bracelet, which she didn’t mention, even though she showed me her ankles to show me how swollen they were from walking so far.
…and I just heard from Lee. She told him she’s staying in a motel, that’s she’s left Dad, but she doesn’t know where the motel is.