flyinglentris
Disabled and Retired Veteran
There are a multitude of reasons why people aspire to be what they are not? To put a credible finger on it, it's a social identity issue. Often people seek to be what they perceive defines them in a socially acceptable way. But the key point is that they do not fluidly evolve toward their aspirations. Instead, their vision of their goal identities are already extant, examples existing in the behaviors and identities of other people. They try to emulate or be like some others which they see and know of.
Very few people define their own identity from scratch, perhaps only learning bits and pieces from the actions and identities of others. Very few are truly self-identified. They do not aspire to be anything other than what their world view would offer as a fluid pathway to self-identity. It's arguable to claim that such people do not aspire to be something they are not, except that what they achieve in terms of personal identity is an internalized and continuing evolution and growth, not toward being similar to some example archetype.
Whether it is cooking, philanthropy, politics or something else, most people choose from the examples of others what to aspire to for their personal identity.
Of course, between the two extremes, there are people who achieve identity both by growth and by emulation.
In your cooking, what defines you, the examples of others, or your own creative direction.
Very few people define their own identity from scratch, perhaps only learning bits and pieces from the actions and identities of others. Very few are truly self-identified. They do not aspire to be anything other than what their world view would offer as a fluid pathway to self-identity. It's arguable to claim that such people do not aspire to be something they are not, except that what they achieve in terms of personal identity is an internalized and continuing evolution and growth, not toward being similar to some example archetype.
Whether it is cooking, philanthropy, politics or something else, most people choose from the examples of others what to aspire to for their personal identity.
Of course, between the two extremes, there are people who achieve identity both by growth and by emulation.
In your cooking, what defines you, the examples of others, or your own creative direction.