Sorry you are both going through these hardships. I have been very fortunate in my life thus far and am thankful every day because of it. But, at the age of 60, I know something could very well occur any day so I like to concentrate on living in the present and try to focus on what positive things I have in front of me, I have a lot of things to be thankful for. This forum and you guys are are one of them.
A great philosophy. And I'm glad you are here!