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MypinchofItaly said:
GIANT hair!
Then I remembered that, almost certainly after that photo, I had started having braids and colouring it. My first hair colour was pink. I should have some pictures somewhere.
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You do realise that you now have to post pics of that pink hair...
 
mjd said:
One day, he sent me an email using the greeting "Sir". I responded to his question and wrote a P.S. telling him that I was female so he should address me as "Ms." or "Madam" (I don't particularly care for either title, personally). Two seconds later he was sending me pictures of his privates.
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Unfortunately, that's not the first time I've heard of something like this.
 
medtran49 said:
Unfortunately, that's not the first time I've heard of something like this.
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Sadly, me either.

They really came out the woodwork when I got separated. My then-husband sometimes had to travel for work. He would leave his work boots on the mat outside the door which he said was to alert other men that a male lived there. I didn't realize how important that was until he left me. Now, I wear a wedding ring and NEVER tell anybody that I'm divorced (well, I tell all you here at CB, but you know what I mean. LOL) For some strange reason, some men think ANY woman who is not in a relationship is looking for one. No, thanks. Been there. Done that. Got *******. Never again. I am not interested at all and I don't think it is fair to any future prospect because I would never trust him (and I know that's not his fault).
 
rascal said:
I really don't get the guys sending pics, I really don't.

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Some men think they are "all a woman needs" and they send those kind of pics with no qualms. My caregiver and I are really close and she joined a couple of dating sites (don't ask me why. LOL). You would NOT believe the kind of stuff men have sent her. It's not only photos but videos. I understand they are playing the "law of averages" (that somebody will eventually be interested in that stuff) but I, personally, don't want to know that much about a new guy. ;-0 That kind of thing should come with a marriage proposal. LOL
 
JAS_OH1 said:
I had a job for a number of years (pre-COVID-19) where I completed business evaluations of varying sorts. Sometimes my husband was allowed to accompany me but most the time I flew solo. The times where it was a two-person assessment, I had on more than one occasion a salesman talk right over my head to my husband as if I wasn't even there, even though I was the one who was in charge of the decision making (i.e. - car sales, in-home window installation, etc.). My husband would seem disinterested and deflect them, saying something like, "Don't ask me, ask her," which really seemed to confuse them, LOL!

In this day and age, SMH.
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I used to get the same.
I'd drive in to a place, real example that happened, my now husband then boyfriend simply in the car with me because we were going on elsewhere together. Despite the fact i was driving and it was a garage i was known at, a new staff member approached my husband immediately. "What can i help you with? "... hubby's response "don't look at me, it's her car". The staff member completely thrown and now having to deal with an 18 year old GIRL instead of a 21 year old MAN. Note girl vs man, not woman vs man....

I'd just walked off by this stage to talk to the mechanic i knew...

That was to become his line over the years, repeated again and again until male mechanics got it into their heads that i dealt with my own vehicle and understood them on their level.
 
JAS_OH1 said:
Edited to add that in case you have never seen Saturday Night Live, Tina Fey is one of the writers/performers of that show and looks a little like Sarah Palin when she tries. She gave an excellent performance mocking/mimicking Sarah.
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A little like her?

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CD
 
JAS_OH1 said:
I had a job for a number of years (pre-COVID-19) where I completed business evaluations of varying sorts. Sometimes my husband was allowed to accompany me but most the time I flew solo. The times where it was a two-person assessment, I had on more than one occasion a salesman talk right over my head to my husband as if I wasn't even there, even though I was the one who was in charge of the decision making (i.e. - car sales, in-home window installation, etc.). My husband would seem disinterested and deflect them, saying something like, "Don't ask me, ask her," which really seemed to confuse them, LOL!

In this day and age, SMH.
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My ex and I didn't discuss minor purchases, but did discuss things like furniture, because we both needed to like our furniture. When purchasing a new car for one of us, we picked out what we wanted, and ran it by the other. Generally we deferred to the one of use the car was for. I did, however, have veto privileges on cars, not because I was "the man," but because I knew 1,000 times more than she did about cars. The only time I stepped in was when we were shopping for a new luxury SUV for her. She had it narrowed down, and I said, "For the price of one of these, we could get you a Mercedes." She had absolutely no problem with me "butting in" on her car purchase. :laugh:

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mjd said:
Sadly, me either.

They really came out the woodwork when I got separated. My then-husband sometimes had to travel for work. He would leave his work boots on the mat outside the door which he said was to alert other men that a male lived there. I didn't realize how important that was until he left me. Now, I wear a wedding ring and NEVER tell anybody that I'm divorced (well, I tell all you here at CB, but you know what I mean. LOL) For some strange reason, some men think ANY woman who is not in a relationship is looking for one. No, thanks. Been there. Done that. Got *******. Never again. I am not interested at all and I don't think it is fair to any future prospect because I would never trust him (and I know that's not his fault).
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You know what's weird? When my parents got divorced, none of the women in our neighborhood would talk to her. Even worse is that some of their husbands tried to flirt with her (she was a looker). And back in those days in the US, divorced women were a bit outcast. I was pretty young (10) but I could tell what was going on and how some of my friends' moms looked at her.
 
I accepted defeat last night and agreed to go to emergency this morning. By mid afternoon my ankle was that swollen I couldn't get any footwear on and I had spent most of the day with it elevated, in a tubergrip and on ice. I'd tried to get a doctor's appointment but the next available one for my own doctor is 3 weeks away, and for my back up doctor, 10 days (I even rang the surgery to confirm and they are crazy busy. Normally I'd been able to see a doctor immediately... reception said my best option was to go to hospital...)

I started with "I know the irony of what I'm about to say but..." I'm sitting in my wheelchair having been dropped off whilst hubby parked up.... "I've taken another fall and sprained my ankle badly. " a physiotherapist came round to my side of the counter straight away. There was a momentary pause/hesitation when she saw the bruising after the bandage/ tubergrip came off before she examined it very carefully (it hurts badly) I'd drawn a red circle around the point that hurt the most, that tied in exactly with the torn tendon (related to the 5th metatarsal and cuboid) but ironically all of that is only a (very) badly sprained foot.

The fracture was picked up on xray and is actually my big toe! Reading between the lines, and I'm have to very my doctor to confirm this when I see her next, I have osteoarthritis in my big toe and have managed to break off one of the bony growths so that it is no longer attached to anything. Asked if it hurts, yes but compared to the sprain it is nothing...

In and out fairly quickly, but the entire thing from door to door has taken 4½hrs... one reason I hate going to hospital.

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So the sprain is worse than the fracture, but I have done both. The boot is only on for as long as it is more comfortable in it than out of it. And I need to see a physio for rehab yet again.

The good news is that we don't need to change hubby's operation date. I should be ok to drive in 6 weeks time for his discharge provided I rest and do the recovery now! Grrr. I'm grounded yet again.
 
medtran49 said:
Can't do emojis as your news is both good and bad. Feel better soon!
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Thanks. Given what you've been through of late it is minor even if it is the 3rd injury in 3 months! I'm trying hard to leave this dammed wheelchair behind but it seems determined to stay with me!

Very bad sprain
Edit to add 1 line: probably got osteoarthritis in big toe
Minor fracture
Don't have to cancel hubby's op... 2 good verses 1 not so good. That by my reckoning is a sigh of relief and can relax.

2 weeks sitting doing very little is another matter entirely and I'll soon be pulling my hair out I know...
 
SatNavSaysStraightOn said:
I accepted defeat last night and agreed to go to emergency this morning. By mid afternoon my ankle was that swollen I couldn't get any footwear on and I had spent most of the day with it elevated, in a tubergrip and on ice. I'd tried to get a doctor's appointment but the next available one for my own doctor is 3 weeks away, and for my back up doctor, 10 days (I even rang the surgery to confirm and they are crazy busy. Normally I'd been able to see a doctor immediately... reception said my best option was to go to hospital...)

I started with "I know the irony of what I'm about to say but..." I'm sitting in my wheelchair having been dropped off whilst hubby parked up.... "I've taken another fall and sprained my ankle badly. " a physiotherapist came round to my side of the counter straight away. There was a momentary pause/hesitation when she saw the bruising after the bandage/ tubergrip came off before she examined it very carefully (it hurts badly) I'd drawn a red circle around the point that hurt the most, that tied in exactly with the torn tendon (related to the 5th metatarsal and cuboid) but ironically all of that is only a (very) badly sprained foot.

The fracture was picked up on xray and is actually my big toe! Reading between the lines, and I'm have to very my doctor to confirm this when I see her next, I have osteoarthritis in my big toe and have managed to break off one of the bony growths so that it is no longer attached to anything. Asked if it hurts, yes but compared to the sprain it is nothing...

In and out fairly quickly, but the entire thing from door to door has taken 4½hrs... one reason I hate going to hospital.

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So the sprain is worse than the fracture, but I have done both. The boot is only on for as long as it is more comfortable in it than out of it. And I need to see a physio for rehab yet again.

The good news is that we don't need to change hubby's operation date. I should be ok to drive in 6 weeks time for his discharge provided I rest and do the recovery now! Grrr. I'm grounded yet again.
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I broke my left pinky toe about 20 years ago. That was painful. It hurt for a good six months. People don't realize how much our toes do when we walk.

BTW, I drove to the ER in a car with a manual gearbox. Working the clutch was over-the-top painful. I started in second, and shifted up to fourth -- drove to the ER with two gears.

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caseydog said:
I broke my left pinky toe about 20 years ago. That was painful. It hurt for a good six months. People don't realize how much are toes do when we walk.

BTW, I drove to the ER in a car with a manual gearbox. Working the clutch was over-the-top painful. I started in second, and shifted up to fourth -- drove to the ER with two gears.

CD
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One of the reasons we went to ED is that I did exactly that back as a teenager.

I was at school in Germany at the time and took a bad fall. I had a glass glass in my hands at the time and was concentrating on not breaking that because the implications were huge. I fell down 3 steps that were pebble dashed. Ended up being sent home from school with the German family I was staying with having to pick me up by car and drop off a neighbour to ride home to bike I'd cycled into school that day. Stayed home the next 3 days (remainder of the week because I hurt so much) but I played down the injuries because of a number of things not least of all not wanting the fuss and attention, but also the family's eldest daughter was seriously ill in hospital, it had occurred the night before I fell. She needed emergency surgery and I felt that the family had enough on their hands without me... i was also due to go home in a couple of weeks so thought I'd just manage.

5 weeks later back in the UK, i went to my doctors because my ankle had this nagging pain that just wouldn't give up... I'd walked there. Whilst i was walking home, my doctor rang my parents to tell them i was not to walk to A&E... that was about an hour's walk away, each way something I'd not hesitate to walk... (my doctor had a daughter in the same class as myself at school who I'd known well for 7 years at this point). So when I got home, my parents handed me the car keys to drive myself to A&E not taking myself or my doctor seriously. Mind you neither did the nurse on duty at A&E when I was asked what was the problem "My doctor thinks I've broken my leg", "but you've just walked in here", "I've been walking on it for 5 weeks"...

Cue an hour or so later and my leg is now in plaster. It's an old mark 3 Ford Escort, 1.6 Ghia with an exceptionally heavy clutch and it was my left leg. Ring my parents only to find out that both of them have been drinking since I'd left and didn't think that one of them should refrain until they knew if it was broken. They ended up finding 2 (separate) neighbours to come in one vehicle, ringing the insurance broker (at home) and getting 1 of them onto the car's insurance for a single day in order to get the vehicle home.
All they had to do was not drink for a couple of hours... too much to ask

So having a history of being able to walk on a broken leg, it comes as no surprise that I do have a very minor break again and can walk on it. Only this time Australian law is very clear in the matter. If you can't safely stop a vehicle you're not allowed to drive and my right ankle qualified as not safe... it is that very problem this time around with my husband that is going to cause a lot of problems. It is his right ankle that is being fused. 12 weeks non-weightbearing, then rehab and physio can start. He's got to learn to walk again and won't be allowed to drive until a doctor clears him to in roughly 5-6 months. That means everything is going to fall on me who currently isn't doing that well!
 
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