[EDIT This post copied from Caregivers thread.]
Just talked to my sister. She is going over tomorrow to get dad's laundry, and put mom's pills for the week in the plastic pill thing. Then she'll go back on Sunday to take Dad's laundry to his room, and get my mom in the shower. The Village will do laundry for my dad for a modest fee, but the lose things, so my sister does it.
My sister does a lot more for my parents than I do, but she lives 15 miles from them, and I live 230 miles away. I hate that she has that extra burden, but I made it clear many times over the years that I was not moving to Houston EVER**, but they were welcome to move close to me, which they did not want to do.
I will go down there when my sister goes on one of her two cruises a year next month. I'll do everything she does, except put mom in the shower. The village has a salon, and she'll get her hair washed there. She can handle other personal hygiene just fine herself. She just can't get herself safely into and out of the shower -- my sister needs to be there. I'll cook a few meals for my mom, and maybe bake something sweet for my dad (he has a giant sweet tooth), and cook some other things to put in containers, and freeze for my mom. She likes my cooking.
CD
** Houston is the forth largest city in the US. It has practically no zoning, few regulations, and the police department can't keep up with the crime rate, which is high. The good suburbs are not a lot better, are very expensive, and are an hour or more from Downtown Houston. I live in a city (Frisco) with good zoning and building codes, well enforced. The police and fire departments are excellent, and even with a population of 220,000, the violent crime rate is one-quarter of the national average. We have 0.02 murders per 1,000 people. The property crime rate is one-third the national average. What would you chose?
Just talked to my sister. She is going over tomorrow to get dad's laundry, and put mom's pills for the week in the plastic pill thing. Then she'll go back on Sunday to take Dad's laundry to his room, and get my mom in the shower. The Village will do laundry for my dad for a modest fee, but the lose things, so my sister does it.
My sister does a lot more for my parents than I do, but she lives 15 miles from them, and I live 230 miles away. I hate that she has that extra burden, but I made it clear many times over the years that I was not moving to Houston EVER**, but they were welcome to move close to me, which they did not want to do.
I will go down there when my sister goes on one of her two cruises a year next month. I'll do everything she does, except put mom in the shower. The village has a salon, and she'll get her hair washed there. She can handle other personal hygiene just fine herself. She just can't get herself safely into and out of the shower -- my sister needs to be there. I'll cook a few meals for my mom, and maybe bake something sweet for my dad (he has a giant sweet tooth), and cook some other things to put in containers, and freeze for my mom. She likes my cooking.
CD
** Houston is the forth largest city in the US. It has practically no zoning, few regulations, and the police department can't keep up with the crime rate, which is high. The good suburbs are not a lot better, are very expensive, and are an hour or more from Downtown Houston. I live in a city (Frisco) with good zoning and building codes, well enforced. The police and fire departments are excellent, and even with a population of 220,000, the violent crime rate is one-quarter of the national average. We have 0.02 murders per 1,000 people. The property crime rate is one-third the national average. What would you chose?
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