Craig isn't on the forum very often anymore. I've wondered about that. People come away from traumas changed. It sounds like the two of you are still managing to enjoys life and have some fun, in spite of the changes. Keep cooking, and eating well. I hope Craig is still cooking outdoors on a regular basis. Seems like something he really enjoys.
CD
We don't cook anywhere near as much and very, very rarely anything complicated. I'm just too tired and don't want to cook after working all day, and then there are always other things to do on weekends, though I do
try and cook things on weekends that can be reheated or easily finished on weeknights. Our eating out expenses have skyrocketed.
He very rarely cooks on the grill and has not BBQd since before his incident in October 2020. Honestly, he would be happy if he could sit in his chair and watch TV most of the time. He did get a sack of crawfish and did a boil a few weeks ago, but that was after he had been talking about doing it ever since season opened. But, then, he did use the hose to wash out the cooler he kept and purged them in, as well as his boil pot and lid, turned them over to drain and dry, and then they sat there. I started with gentle nudges a few days later to get him to put them away, with gradually escalating nudges and pushes, until last Sunday I told him I was going to put everything, including his gas cooker and propane tanks, out for bulk garbage pick up this past week. After throwing a fit, he finally did put them away. That has become his pattern of behavior. So, it's just easier and more peaceful for me not to ask him to do anything.
He just gets frustrated too easily with pretty much everything. When he does get on the computer at work, it takes him forever to do anything, and he either has to be watched to make sure he does it right, or I have to go back and check it. Most of the time it's right, but often enough wrong that a recheck has to be done. And when he starts to get frustrated, things escalate to the point where he can't even remember where the back arrow is on the screen. Heck, there are times when he will get confused with the TV remotes.
He is happy watching TV and going out for nice dinners once a week and getting takeout up to several times a week, even eating frozen meals, which is a HUGE change in him. I watch TV with him if it's something I want to watch or read, and now I'm working on my miniature project, which is something I've always enjoyed. So I guess we're pretty content overall.