My wife does that, but for her, the answer is always, "You could DIE!!!"
How is the corona virus affecting you?
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rascal
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Sorry to hear that, I know it's a big problem, because all the coronavirus sites I've seen include a "how to deal" section. I'll peruse a couple of those and see if anything sounds helpful and pass it on.
Me, as funny as it sounds, I deal with it by largely ignoring it and staying in a routine. That doesn't me I'm running around shaking hands and kissing people; I'm taking the precautions the govt and health officials are outlining, but I'm just not thinking about it.
Our state is updating the state website once daily. I think that's a great idea, because it keeps me from obsessing over the latest updates. I know to check the website every day at 3PM, note the numbers, read the daily update, and then move on mentally, because if I check it again at 5PM, then 9PM, then 7AM the next morning, it's going to be the same. I check national headlines once a day as well, at around 11AM.
One thing I'm very good at is compartmentalizing. I can put all the virus stuff in a little virus box in my brain, and then use the rest of my brain for other things. I can honestly say that for large parts of the day, I more or less forget there's a pandemic going on. When I'm cooking, I'm not thinking virus. When I'm watching TV, I'm not thinking virus.
I think sticking to a routine as much as possible is helpful. I'm working from home full time now, but I work from home so much already, it doesn't feel much different. I go into town less, but I still go in when I need to. I feed the dog, do the laundry on Thursdays (arghhh!), just as usual.
Relaxing...I love to watch TV, so I could do that 15 hours a day and be happy, but I don't. I play music (meaning on an instrument) every single day. That helps a lot. I was cleaning up some stuff and found a mandolin my mom bought when I was a teen - I'm cleaning that up and am really looking forward to fooling around on it in the next few days. When I found that, I sure wasn't thinking about the virus.
The most stress in my life has centered around two unexpected job losses, my wife's stroke, and most recently, my wife's heart attack. In each case, I just put everything in its own little box and dealt with things individually.
With the job losses, I designated a couple of hours each day to job hunting, and I gave my wife 30 minutes when she got home to ask any questions about prospects - outside of those times, no thinking/talking about being unemployed.
With her stroke, she was in the hospital for nearly a month, 45 minutes away, and I had to get up, feed the dog, rush over, come back at lunch to let the dog out and deal with any usual issues (mail, etc), then rush back, then rush back home to feed the dog in the evening, then rush back for the last couple of hours with her before going back home for the night.
When I wasn't at the hospital, as weird as it may sound, I wasn't thinking about my wife. I was feeding the dog, paying the bills, mowing the grass, vacuuming the floors. When I was at the hospital, I was focused on the wife. Didn't care about the laundry or dishes then.
Compartmentalize!
Great advice tr, sorry I missed where you lost your job, sorry to hear that, the rest I'm aware of. Keep Mrs t and yourself safe.
Russ
No, I'm working. I just meant over my adult life, I've been laid off twice, once in 2004 and again in 2006.
rascal
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Sorry,lol, I've never been laid off, got sacked once for drinking at lunch time, but I was 16,lol,
Russ
We had tickets to see Carol Burnett May 4th. Just notified it's been rescheduled to July 31. 
rascal
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We had tickets to see Carol Burnett May 4th. Just notified it's been rescheduled to July 31.
Is she still alive?
Russ
No, she died years ago. We're going just to see her remains.
Yes, she's still alive, still very with it. Lyle Waggoner did just pass away yesterday, though. That's for real.
rascal
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No, she died years ago. We're going just to see her remains.
Yes, she's still alive, still very with it. Lyle Waggoner did just pass away yesterday, though. That's for real.
I didn't know she was still alive.
Russ
I really appreciate your response.
Yes - I'm normally brilliant at doing compartmentalising. In the job I had in the University sector I ended up in a very senior position, responsible for not only a huge number of staff and students but all the other things: resources, budgets, quality assessment, health & safety, curriculum (and so on). I would have been simply been unable to cope at all if I hadn't been able to compartmentalise. I had a system of 'folders' for each aspect (some virtual, some hard copy). When I dealt with something the relevant folders were opened, when I'd finished dealing with it, the folder was closed and put out of my mind until next time.
However, this particular situation refuses to be put in a folder!
I do feel better today. I managed 7 hours sleep. The gardener is coming so the garden will get sorted. I will cook something.
Saranak
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Ciao a tutti,
So sad, elderly lady who live across my road come along and she cry. I ask why. She say she go Co-op nothing left there! My heart break for her. I make up small hamper and say take to eat, I leave on door step for her.
She ill also no with virus other illness. Why people so selfish?
Sarana x
So sad, elderly lady who live across my road come along and she cry. I ask why. She say she go Co-op nothing left there! My heart break for her. I make up small hamper and say take to eat, I leave on door step for her.
She ill also no with virus other illness. Why people so selfish?
Sarana x
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That two cases of wine we bought a couple of months ago is proving a wise investment.
I got an email last night from one of the live theaters we frequent. Obviously, no more stage shows for the near future, so they're doing a cool thing - they film each piece they stage, just for historical purposes, and they're going to make those available via streaming, so folks like us, who love going to plays, can still enjoy them while at home.
We'll definitely be taking advantage of that.
Also going to the vet today, to pick up some vitamins for the dog. Vet is doing curbside only - I have to call them from the car, tell them what I want, then they run it out, take my credit card, run back in, scan it, then bring it back out to me. Long process.
Be careful that you are not scammed, i.e. returned a card that is not your own.
Situations like this bring out the worst and the best in people. You're definitely doing good!
Thanks. If anything, I'd get the wrong card back by mistake; one of the front desk women is a little scatterbrained, but a real sweetheart. Good thing about living in a rural area - I've known every person in the vet shop for the last 15 years. They know me, my dog, I've met their kids, their partners...as the old saying goes, "I know where you live." I really do!
I work for a bank, so my bank card is from my employer, just like every person I work with, and when we've gone out for group lunches, it's not unusual to get someone else's card back, or even get charged someone else's lunch, because when it's time to pay, out come 15 identical-looking orange bank cards!
Lullabelle
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We are off out foraging this afternoon. Going to try to get some hand wash for my brother-his daughter is buying the groceries but hand soap cannot be taken as given so we are going to try and get some for him as well. Hopefully it will soon settle down.
You are supposed to be self-isolating. It is really important as you have been in direct contact with the virus. In particular, you shouldn't be leaving your house or going anywhere near anybody else. I know you want to help but this is extremely important. Old people in particular are at risk from this virus. In addition, paper and cardboard & plastic surfaces etc. that you have touched, can all be contaminated with the virus, if you are a carrier. It is not at all advisable for you to make up hampers for anyone right now.
Sorry, but as a moderator, I needed to state this. The forum shouldn't be seen to be condoning any behaviour which could put others at risk.