MypinchofItaly
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That is wonderful news.
Thank you my dear.
It’s a fluctuating mood, step by step
That is wonderful news.
Well not that great. Today is the deadline for my oldest stepson to be placed in a new facility, and we still know nothing. I'm extremely stressed.
We had an alternative place arranged, AND a signed contract that binds the current facility to look for a place for him. But without informing us, THEY called the alternative place to let them know how horrible our son is, so he is now not able to go there. And they are now refusing to comply with the rehoming contract, so my stepson might be homeless after today because taking him back is no option because he is agressive and a danger to his environment. But its absolutely soul destroying to be put in this position.
So, we'll soon be in court trying to get justice for my stepson, obviously.
His mother has withdrawn from the process completely, she leaves everything to us which is part of the reason he can't come back. He's officially mentally disabled in a way that requires 24/7 intensive care and neither of us can provide that.I am so sorry you all are going through this. I can imagine the stress you must be feeling. I am not surprised they badmouthed him to the new facility. I've had a few doctors break the law and discuss me with others without consent. My ex made a habit of it during our separation so it was hard to get cohesive care for several years.
I know you mentioned it but forgive me as I don't recall at the moment. Can he stay with his mother? Is she helpful at all in searching for resources for him? Here we have patient advocates that usually work in hospitals. They usually know about resources in the community.
Again, I'm sorry you're going through this.
Oh, she sounds lovely. /sarcasmHis mother has withdrawn from the process completely, she leaves everything to us which is part of the reason he can't come back. He's officially mentally disabled in a way that requires 24/7 intensive care and neither of us can provide that.
We already have in use every kind of resource there is , but because he has autism/adhd/ocd/incontience/agression and mental disability ( cognitive disfunction, he functions at the level of 12 year old but is 21) he's deemed ' too complicated ' by every single facility out there so far.
Please keep us posted on what happens and how you're doing.Yes we're still hoping they will resolve it today as their contract binds them to do..
Oh, she sounds lovely. /sarcasm
If I was in this situation I would call every doctor, psychiatrist, church and the police department. Somebody somewhere has to know of resources for this kind of thing.
I have a case manager assigned through my insurance company. She helped me get a Life Alert button and caregiving services. Do you have anything like that there?
Our local mental health service owns a few properties to house clients needing around-the-clock care. They get their own apartment but the kitchen and community areas are shared.
Does he see a counselor and/or psychiatrist? Maybe they know of some resources that would be a good match for him.
Sending you a ton of hugs!
You know, I know this sounds crazy, but do they expect/hope that by leaving him homeless, he'll end up committing a crime of some sort, and end up incarcerated, as in, that's how they plan to deal with it?What we will do,might they have the audacity to leave him homeless is call in all the press and political parties as a last ditch effort
I am so sorry if my post sounded like I'm blaming you for not doing anything. Far from it. I hear a woman with a beautiful heart who is just downright exhausted from trying to hold this together for everyone involved.
Look I know you want to help dear, but we've not gotten in this position through our neglect. We've fought for him for 12 years and exhausted all the resources along the way. The problem as stated before, is that he is a danger to his environment and those people are scarcely welcome anywhere but in prison. We have a for-profit healthcare system and people like my stepson don't provide a profit. Our mental healthcare has been in perpetual crisis because of this problem for the past 20 years. And people vote only for less public healthcare and less resources for people like my stepson. My stepson gets sent away from every program he's ever been to for misbehaving, even when they know what he has.
Of course he's seeing a psychiatrist, right now that's just the person who is behind the ignoring of the contract he himself signed.
All our resources are spent. It's sink or swim.
And we still know nothing and working hours are over now. Tomorrow we'll have to wait another day.
Usually, that's the case. There basically is no help BEFORE a person commits a crime but all kinds of services once they do. If it's anything like here (US) the prisons are for-profit so they keep funneling mentally ill patients into them.You know, I know this sounds crazy, but do they expect/hope that by leaving him homeless, he'll end up committing a crime of some sort, and end up incarcerated, as in, that's how they plan to deal with it?
Am doing fine, thank you. Taking it hour by hour, being grateful for every tiny possible thing or action.
Worried about my boyfriend's neck surgery. Hoping it goes well. Believe it will greatly help him.
Very much looking forward to the weekend
Thank you, you are kind.Best wishes to your bf for a quick recovery and freedom from hospitalization.
What we will do,might they have the audacity to leave him homeless is call in all the press and political parties as a last ditch effort
We expect something like that might be the idea, we know he won't last a day on the streets without being taken off them for acting crazy. That's a small comfort.You know, I know this sounds crazy, but do they expect/hope that by leaving him homeless, he'll end up committing a crime of some sort, and end up incarcerated, as in, that's how they plan to deal with it?